Public Speaking and Presentations
Nan and Gary have been invited over the years to speak or present workshops at national conventions, the World Gathering, EAP, Optimists’ Clubs, churches, funeral homes, and other gatherings. Topics will be customized to meet the needs (audience, time, objectives) of the Event. Titles are subject to change. Additional subjects may be available or created for the event.
Title #1: MYTHS OF GRIEF
Title #2: THINGS AREN’T ALWAYS WHAT THEY SEEM
Title#3: MISLEADING GRIEF MYTHS-COMMON SENSE REALITIES
TITLE #4: THINGS I WISH I HAD KNOWN—COPING WITH LOSS BEYOND THE MYTHS
To the bereaved person, THINGS aren’t always what they seem. Prior to the death of a loved one, most of us have only experienced death as a bystander through television, movies, or books. We observe the death and imagine how we might handle the same situation. We are instantly influenced by family, friends, and society whom we assume know how to grieve. We are vulnerable to various statements about healing that may actually distract us from what we need to do. In this presentation, we’ll explore the reality of these kinds of myths: (1) Everybody’s Heard This Before Myths; (2) The Right Way to Grieve Myths; (3) Bad Advice from Family and Friends Myths; Suicide is Predictable Myths ((4) Closure and Getting Over Your Grief Myths. (1.5 -2 HOUR).
Title #1 ASK ME. I’M NOT AFRAID TO TALK ABOUT SUICIDE
Title #2 STOP THE SILENCE-DEALING WITH FAMILIES HURT BY SUICIDE
Breaking the silence about suicide. Nan and Gary, expose their feelings and their experiences with this unspeakable taboo. They discuss their reactions to being labeled a “survivor of suicide” and explore several fearful suicide myths that tormented them. Nan & Gary will share 18 ways to live and thrive in a society that still doesn’t understand, even twenty years later. Both speak frankly, not with bitterness or despair, but with a desire to share what they have learned and offer hope to survivors
Title #1 SEASONED GRIEF—HOW TO GET THEIR GRACEFULLY
Title #2 2015 revised CONNECTING THE DOTS-HOW TO GET TO SEASONED GRIEF
Getting to seasoned grief requires going through transitional turning points that help us connect the dots. It helps us define the patterns and cycles of our grief that appear random but lead to a significant point in discovering Who Am I now—after loss? Whether you become an experienced griever or a seasoned griever involves investing in change and taking risks. Your transition occurs when you are no longer defined by the event but rather by the possibilities that bring you hope. Experienced or seasoned?–How far are you willing to go?
GETTING TO THE “NEW NORMAL” AFTER LOSS–The truths behind your renewal.
Everyone talks about a “new normal” in life after loss, but what does that mean? It’s true you have changed from the inside out. You recognize subtle changes in your social circle, your priorities, the demands on your life, and your choices going forward. But the question still remains: “Who am I now?” The process of your renewal to a “new normal” unveils the truths of what you leave behind as you grasp change. The journey becomes more about “ME” than ever before in life. In spite of the risks, the benefits make it desirable. This is a very interactive workshop asking the attendees to share their thoughts and experiences. Everyone wins with this sharing event! (2 hours)
Title #1: HOW GRIEF CHANGES YOUR LIFE
Title #2: SHAKEN BY GRIEF—WHEN LOSS CHANGES EVERYTHING
An introductory workshop about grief that explores the difference between grief and mourning and how our past affects how we grieve. We will also explore how we grieve physically; how relationships change; how men and women grieve differently; using social media, and finding hope. This interactive program encourages attendees to ask questions and share experiences in the time permitted. This workshop is based on concepts from a popular group series facilitated by Nan & Gary Zastrow (1-2 HOUR)
HOW DO YOU FOLD YOUR SOCKS? GRIEVING IN TODAYS’ WORLD
Beyond many known facts that we all grieve differently, Nan and Gary share the realities of “Your Way—My Way” based on their personal experiences of how men and women grieve differently. Learn how they challenged the statistics to survive the loss of a child together and understand why “being normal again” was no longer a desirable goal. They candidly look back at their errors and omissions and validate the most important decision they made. Understand how todays’ world had changed the “art” of grieving and given us permission to grieve differently. (1 HOUR)